Life in New York City is all about uncovering hidden gems. Whether it’s the latest, must-visit eatery, the up-and-coming neighborhood (where rents aren’t yet laughably unaffordable), or the cult fitness craze sweeping the boroughs —here, the focus is always on new discoveries. Unsurprisingly, the same goes for dating.
And while it may be fun to hunt for the “next best thing” when it comes to food or fashion, searching for the Harry to your Sally in the midst of a too-fast-paced, can’t-keep-up New York can feel like the odds are definitely not in your favor. There are, after all, not only tons of options to sift through, but an array of factors constantly stepping in between you and the potential love of your life (hello, work, friends, finances, and way, way more).
In short, dating in New York can be exhausting. That’s why, we’ve helped do (some of) the legwork for you. We’ve sifted through the millions of eligible guys in the Big Apple, and narrowed it down to 21 of the most adorable, datable bachelors around. Consider your preliminary work done. As for the pick-up lines and date planning? Well, we’ll leave what comes next up to you.
Name: Matthew Scanlan
Age: 27
Neighborhood You Call Home: West Village
Job Title: CEO and Cofounder, Naadam Cashmere
Looking For: Women
Twitter: @naadamcashmere
Instagram: @naadamcashmere
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Empathy, sense of humor, ambition, and creativity.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I never take myself too seriously, I take my work very seriously, and I always mix work and play.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Turn-on: a high EQ, a great laugh, and a little bit of sass; turn-offs: passive-aggressive behavior and being late.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I swam a mile to shore when we were stranded in a sinking sailboat off the coast of the Greek islands to get help.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“I never use pick-up lines, that’s amateur hour.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“I learn something new every day. It never get’s boring, and as we grow, I get to grow with it.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Golf, tennis, sailing, biking, and working out.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“A Shake Weight.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“A date to a place in the West Village where I had flowers waiting. Afterwards, I had the waiter pack up dessert in a picnic basket I had brought over earlier with a blanket, a candle, and a cashmere sweater; we walked across the street and sat on the grass by the West Side Highway and watched the sun set.
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“Café Cluny, Terra Blues, and The Bohemian.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“It’s hard to get to know people; people stay very guarded.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“There is always something going on and there is something for everyone.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“It finds you when you least expect it.”
Name: Andrew Rhys Young
Age: 29
Neighborhood You Call Home: Lower East Side
Job Title: Senior Publicist, Bradbury Lewis
Looking For: A Long-Term Relationship (Men)
Twitter: @andrewrhysyoung
Instagram: @andrewrhysyoung
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“My dream guy would be someone who is patient and thoughtful, but a little bit unpredictable. I’m happiest around people who are certain of who they are and what they’re working towards in life, but are also able to enjoy all the detours and surprises along the way.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“1. I’m Australian, and am just as easy-going and optimistic as all the clichés; 2. I don’t have a TV or the internet at home, and it’s a choice that I am very okay with; 3. The first band I saw live was Metallica; the most recent one was the American Youth Symphony.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Creativity and thoughtfulness are big turn-ons; bad manners and complaining about catching the subway or having to walk are turn-offs.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“You might not call this ‘crazy,’ but I think the most valuable thing you can do in a relationship is try to love someone unconditionally. If you’re genuinely able to be in a partnership where you’re not judging them or keeping score on something, then you’re doing very well.
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“That it changes every day. There is always a surprise, and the good ones are fantastic.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“I’ll choose travel over almost anything — the more remote and far-flung, the better. I’m planning a trip to the Medicine Bow Mountains in Wyoming at the moment, and I can’t wait to get out there.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I don’t keep track of things like this — I just try to be a nice guy day-to-day. If you need a pat on the back every time you do something nice for someone, we’re not going to work out.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Cannibalism.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“My favorite dates are when we go somewhere that neither of us have been yet, whether it’s a restaurant or an outdoor spot. Right now, I’m waiting for a chance to eat at Seamore’s in Nolita, and walk over the High Bridge between Manhattan and the Bronx, which just reopened. I’d also say yes to anyone who asks me to Il Trovatore at The Met this fall.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“People placing disproportionate importance on what they expect a partner to bring to a relationship in terms of money, career, and real estate. New York is a hard city, and I come across a lot of people who think they can date their way out of that hardship. I’d much rather meet someone ambitious and build that life together.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“Walking everywhere. I walk from the Lower East Side to my office in Tribeca every morning, and it’s one of my favorite parts of the day. Even when it’s snowing, it’s beautiful.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“I’d prefer to reveal that one on a second date!”
Name: Austin Wender
Age: 23
Neighborhood You Call Home: Tudor City
Job Title: Commercial Real Estate Broker/Musician
Looking For: Women
Twitter: @austinwender
Instagram: @austinwender
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“A woman that appreciates the little things that life gives you, and someone who can smile, even when things go wrong; positive vibes.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I’m always down for an adventure, and I love going to see live music. Sometimes I can be a little anxious, so just hold my hand for a second, and I’ll get over it.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Natural beauty is my biggest turn-on: You don’t need makeup or cool clothes to look beautiful. I’m also attracted to taller women. My biggest turn-off? When you don’t laugh at my jokes. At least pretend!
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“’Hi’ usually gets the ball rolling. I don’t think women want to hear some generic pick-up line they’ve heard 1000 times before.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I don’t kiss and tell.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“I get to be creative. People hear commercial real estate and they think I’m just another suit. But, working in retail allows me to use my vision for the city in amazing ways. There’s definitely an element of urban planning to my job. “
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“I love to play music; in the past few years, I’ve performed all over the city and L.A. I was working in a recording studio before moving to real estate, and it really is my passion. I also love to travel; I just went to Cuba, and it was incredible.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I think I’m benevolent by nature. I like to take care of people. It brings me happiness to make other people feel safe and comfortable. I get that from my mom.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Skydiving. I’m absolutely terrified. I’d rather go cage diving with great white sharks than jump out of a plane. If a woman can get me to go skydiving, then I know she’s the one.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“I’m not much of a name dropper, but I do have a couple. There’s this little French spot in my neighborhood that’s my go-to, and there’s a speakeasy across the street that makes a strong drink. It’s a good place for a nightcap.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“Dating is intimidating, regardless of where you are. Louis C.K. does this bit where he suggests as a society that we change the term ‘dating’ to ‘trying:’ ‘I’m taking this girl out on a try tonight.’ It’s a little less daunting, I think.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“New York is amazing. You can do anything or get anything at any time of the day. I’ve traveled all over the world, and I still get excited about living here. But the sense of urgency can definitely be exhausting, so it’s also great that there are tons of little escapes just outside the city.“
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“You have to know yourself in order to know what you want. If you don’t know what you want or who you are yet, that’s not a bad thing. Go find yourself in whatever way you think is best. But you shouldn’t commit to someone until you understand yourself.”
Name: Ian Bradley
Age: 29
Neighborhood You Call Home: East Village
Job Title: Fashion Stylist
Looking For: Guys
Twitter: @IANCOGNEATO
Instagram: @iancogneato
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Someone who can show me a new and different way to view the world.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I think out loud, like the outdoors (but don’t love them), and still suck my thumb before bed.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Turn-ons: sincerity and a cute butt; turn-offs: insincerity and laziness.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“Nice shoes…”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“Letting them borrow my clothes…and keep them.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“Getting to make cute outfits.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Traveling, and people watching in foreign places.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“Telling my friend to throw away her prom shoes when she moved to New York City. I’ve been saving people from fashion mistakes since preschool.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Hmm…attempting to climb Mount Everest?”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“Employees Only, Dia:Beacon, and the Conservatory Garden in Central Park.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“There are too many options.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“Convenience.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“You can’t hurry it…My girl, Diana, taught me that.”
Name: Justin Fenner
Age: 26
Neighborhood You Call Home: Harlem
Job Title: Digital Style Editor, Details
Looking For: One man. Just one.
Twitter: @justinfenner
Instagram: @justinfenner
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Intelligence, ambition, and a sense of humor are musts, but the ability to gently push me out of my comfort zone every now and then takes the cake.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I generally agree that the book is better than the movie; I’m a pretty good cook, and I’m always impressed with guys who know their way around a kitchen, too; I’m still really sad they cancelled GCB.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Confidence is the biggest turn-on there is. I also like knowing that a guy takes good care of himself. I don’t drive, but if I did, I’d brake for redheads.
“Poor communication skills, selfishness, constant lateness, and — barring lactose intolerance — an avoidance of soft cheeses are all red flags for me.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I once briefly went vegetarian for a guy I was dating. My meatless diet didn’t last very long, and neither did the relationship.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“It’s the brilliant group of people I get to work with every day. When I got here a year-and-a-half ago, the staff was already making the best men’s magazine in America, but our digital presence had a lot of room to grow. We’ve made some great strides since then, bringing on talented new contributors, and dramatically increasing our traffic. It’s exciting to be part of this growth, and I can’t wait to see where we’ll be this time next year.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“I love living in New York City, but this place can really wear you down. I try to get out of here and spend quality time with my friends as often as possible. I never go super far (recently, I’ve been hiking in the Hudson Valley and whitewater rafting in Maine), but I love being outdoors.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Anything that involves being naked in public.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I believe the kindest thing you can do for anyone is tell them the truth. I try to do that every chance I get.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“You can go on an amazing date virtually anywhere, but it’s hard to beat the charm and intimacy of an Italian restaurant in the West Village. Cotenna is my favorite, and Perla and Frankie’s are great, too. I also really love sitting on a bench in Washington Square Park and people watching.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“I’m not 100 percent aligned with app- or site-based dating. You’re not going to get a full picture of someone from a few well-filtered selfies and scant lines of text, so I always prefer to meet people in person. But, in a town where everyone’s primary point of entry is Tinder — or Hinge, or Happn, or Scruff, or Bumble, or whatever — that can be an uphill battle. (All that said, my DMs are open.)”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“That it’s nothing like what you see on television.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“Love can take a while to find, but it’s entirely worth the wait.”
Name: Landon Peoples
Age: 22
Neighborhood You Call Home: Williamsburg
Job Title: Editorial Assistant, Fashion, Refinery29
Looking For: Males
Twitter: @landonpeoples
Instagram: @peoplesnewyork
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“I have been cheated on in every relationship I have been in, so nowadays, honesty has to come first. Even if you cheat, I, much like anyone, would prefer that you just tell me. Lying only makes your initial mistake much worse, and I’m a firm believer that when you tell the truth all the time, you never have to worry about remembering anything.
“And patience, because both the highs and the lows in a relationship take an open mind and time to fully understand. To know your significant other treats everything that happens in your relationship with the same gentleness and care as they would something that applies to only their life, is consideration at its finest.
“Oh, and laughter. If you can make me laugh, that’s a strong sign of longevity.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I’m very much my star sign (Taurus), meaning the good and the bad traits. My humor is quite dry, and can sometimes be skewed as mean. So, you have to remember that nothing ever comes from a bad place — I’m always just playing around. And, I’m very traditional. When it comes to dating, I like ‘the little things,’ and romantic, long walks on the beach…or to the bar.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Biggest turn-ons: humor, talent, intellect, confidence, loyalty, taste, creativity, team players, punctuality, unconditional love and affection, culture, and joie de vivre; biggest turn-offs: cheating, selfishness, a lack of ambition and drive, disorganization, straight-up lying, inauthenticity, and being cheap.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“’Hi, friend!’”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“Lied to my parents to sneak out and see them past my curfew during high school, I guess.”
What would you say is the best part of your job?
“The anything goes mentality. Almost nothing is off-limits, and there’s always a way to turn something into an interesting, meaningful story.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Cook! Spending time with people in the kitchen — whether it be my friends, family, or a significant other — has given me some of the best conversations and laughs of my life. If you know your way around a kitchen, you’ll always have something to talk about. And I love going to the park. Being in nature is something that truly touches my soul.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I can write a mean love letter.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Drugs and bugs.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“Pretty much any restaurant in the West Village, any park in Brooklyn, and a great rooftop.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“I think people have the wrong mentality. Life here moves at a really fast pace, so we’re often reminded of how lonely we are when we’re single. The moment we get home and no one’s there — it can hit like a speeding train. To fill those tiny voids, we use dating apps to find quick fixes that usually present us with the wrong types of people. I think the moment we get rid of that FOMO/next-best-thing mindset, we’ll be able to slow down and focus on what we really want in the long run.
“Also, everyone here is beautiful, which means a constant supply of attention. But, just like owning a puppy — the licks of many aren’t as satisfying as one little guy who will never leave your side.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“I truly believe New York is the center of everything. The moment I leave, I feel like I’m missing out.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“Sometimes, it’s a choice. We don’t choose to fall in love, per se, but we do sometimes choose to love the wrong people (who don’t deserve it).”
Name: Spencer Smith
Age: 23
Neighborhood You Call Home: Lower East Side
Job Title: Business Development, Groupon
Looking For: Good Humans
Twitter: @spencerschutte
Instagram: @spencerschutte
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Someone who can balance ambition and humility, who’s spontaneous, open-minded, and down to share clothes.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I don’t have a dog, but I often drag friends to the dog park; my new year’s resolution has been — and always will be — to be a morning person; I consider a perfect night’s sleep one spent in arctic temperatures.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Turn-ons: outgoingness, an adventurous palate, and a healthy dose of crazy; turn-offs: dating as a transaction to find a boyfriend as opposed to dating to get to know someone, a lack of self-awareness, and bad breath.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“‘Hi.’”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“I meet people from all over the country every day, so I get to interact with characters of all backgrounds. It keeps me on my toes.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Skiing whenever I can, being with friends and family, and usually wearing shirts instead of party hats.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I hope it was done with sincere enough intentions that I didn’t realize it was the nicest thing I’ve ever done.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I had to phone-a-former on this one (thanks, Tommy): ‘When I moved to Chicago, and Spencer to Washington, D.C., we were both hit with a dose of reality. One day, I came home and had a package from him. Atop a massive chunk of dry ice were 200 It’s-It ice cream sandwiches (they’re amazing, and from San Francisco, like Spencer). It was my favorite treat when I visited his home. That was one of the sweetest, craziest things a guy has done for me.’”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Murder. Definitely not my thing.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“Good dates happen at Kiki’s on Division Street. Otherwise, Attaboy, Raines Law Room, and the moonlight mile.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“I’m not sure if it’s necessarily a problem, but here, 35 is the new 15. Settling down isn’t on the top of most people’s priority lists.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“It’s a really peaceful place for restless people.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“It’s awesome (most of the time). But, looking for love probably means you’re not ready for it. It finds you; searching doesn’t get you there any faster.”
Name: Steve Foy
Age: 27
Neighborhood You Call Home: East Williamsburg
Job Title: Account Manager, 1stdibs
Looking for: Women
Twitter: @stevefoy1
Instagram: @stevefoy1
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Someone who isn’t one dimensional, and has her own interests and hobbies that she is passionate about; a girl I can have a serious conversation with one minute, and then switch it up and feel totally comfortable goofing out with the next. Laughter and being yourself is absolutely crucial. Also, a confident girl who I can bring out with my friends, and watch Wes Anderson movies with.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“1. My British accent often is mistaken for an Australian accent. After three years, I have come to terms with this, and it’s fine; 2. I am extremely passionate about music. I am a playlist curator; 3. I would like to live in a world where it is acceptable to eat tacos for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.”
What are your biggest turn-ons/offs?
“Turn-ons: humbleness, self-drive, out-goingness, genuineness, a good listener, big eyes and a beautiful smile, good music taste, and style is a plus; turn-offs: indecisiveness, oversensitivity, too much makeup, and an onslaught of selfies.”
Do you have a go-to pick up line?
“In all honesty, I’ve never been into the idea of using chat-up lines. I like to keep first impressions as organic and natural as possible. With that said, I recently heard this absolute scorcher of a chat-up line: “Can I please borrow your cell phone? I need to call my mother to tell her that I met the girl of my dreams.” Yeah, I banked it.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“Matching tattoos? Okay, luckily that didn’t happen. That would be nuts.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“Everything about it — I really love the company culture, and my coworkers are the best. I am lucky to have the opportunity to work and build relationships with so many incredible dealers. We also have a very, very cool bar in our office.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“I am pretty social. so you’ll usually find me out with my friends at some sort of event or show; getting lost in the city and stumbling into a new favorite spot that you never knew existed; reading and cycling — not at the same time.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“You can ask me that in person.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“I am pretty open to trying anything once….within moderation. Speed dating has never appealed to me. Or fake tanning — I would look ridiculous!”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“Freemans Restaurant on the Lower East Side; it’s rustic and intimate, which sets a great tone for a date. Their cocktails are really on point, and their food might just blow your mind. If it’s a nice afternoon and we’re feeling adventurous, we could possibly grab some food at Smorgasburg in Williamsburg and take the East River Ferry to Pier 11. Then, top it off with a nice stroll across the Brooklyn Bridge. That view is everything.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“I think one of the biggest problems is that there are so many options in the city, so people are always searching for something more, or the next best thing. Some people will never be satisfied and need to learn to live in the moment.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“It may sound crazy, but I really don’t hate commuting through the city. It’s a great chance to sneak in some solid reading time, or zone out with some music and a coffee. No matter what your doing, it’s hard to feel like you’re not growing as a person by living in New York.”
What’s one lesson that you have learned about love so far?
“Don’t lose yourself in a relationship. Both people have to want to be in the relationship, and be willing to make it work. You can’t do it on your own. You can’t force someone to care for you, no matter how badly you want it.”
Name: Tim McGuigan (Left)
Age: 26
Neighborhood You Call Home: Prospect Lefferts Gardens
Job Title: Healthcare Analyst, Musician, and Model
Looking For: Women
Instagram: @TMcGuigs7
Name: Daniel McGuigan (Right)
Age: 26
Neighborhood You Call Home: Prospect Lefferts Gardens
Job Title: Musician and Producer, Freelance CPA, and Model
Looking For: Women
Twitter: @dt_mcguigan
Instagram: @middleinfieldmusic
What are you looking for in a significant other?
Tim McGuigan: “Above all, I am interested in someone who is super compassionate, even inspiring me to serve others to a greater capacity.”
Daniel McGuigan: “I look for a woman who has humility. For someone who is about something bigger than herself…a visionary in any number of ways.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
TM: “1. I’m a twin. It’s all about family!; 2. I have Korean and Irish blood coursing through my veins; 3. I’m a Trojan (USC – Fight On!).”
DM: “1. I’m basically already married to my twin brother, but am willing to go astray under the right circumstances; 2. I can be a real dork sometime; 3. Sometimes I forget to close the toilet lid.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
TM: “Turn-ons: Humble, fun-loving, laid-back, compassionate. Turn-offs: self-absorbed, gossipy.”
DM: “My biggest turn-on is when a girl is quirky…borderline weird. It adds an allure to her I can’t quite put my finger on. My biggest turn-off. Hmmm. Probably when someone is living in the past and not in the present.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
TM: “Were you forged by Sauron in the fires of Mount Doom? Because you’re looking extra hot and precious this fine evening.”
DM: “If and when I muster up the courage to talk to a girl, I usually just introduce myself. If it’s a completely random situation, like on the subway platform or something, I’ll pretty much say verbatim ‘Hey, I know this is totally random, but I saw you [standing here] and thought I’d introduce myself. My name’s Dan.'”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
TM: “Almost jumped on a plane to fly halfway across the country to try and win a young lady back. Luckily, I did not. I blame Hollywood for this impulse!”
DM: “Not quite for a significant other, but for a girl I liked in college, I drove a couple hours to see her in an attempt to sweep her off her feet. Things didn’t quite work out as I envisioned, but I did end up crashing a Harry Potter-themed party that night. So it was a win in the end.”
What’s your favorite thing about your job?
TM: “I get to work on a topic that’s really relevant right now (healthcare, and solve people’s problems.”
DM: “I used to work in public accounting where there wasn’t much freedom. Making music now and living the freelance lifestyle offers me a lot more freedom with my creativity, and with my time.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
TM: Music jammin’ with my brother, going to concerts, and hanging out with friends and family.
DM: “Hang with my family and friends, as well as my extended family at Trinity Grace Church. Strum on the ol’ guitar and turn some dials. Ride my bike through Prospect Park. Go to the gym. Yada yada.”
What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
TM: I was on the D train heading uptown — it was one of those trains that comes to a stop with a sudden jerk. The train stopped and an unsuspecting little girl went flying. Luckily I saw it coming, and was in a good position to catch her. Her mixed expression of surprise and gratitude is probably one of the cutest things I’ve seen.
DM: “Sheesh, this is the toughest question on here. It may be traveling to hang with my little brother from the Big Brothers Big Sisters program that I was a part of in college. I try and see him every couple of months to continue playing an active role in his life.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
TM: “NYC parks such as Hudson River Park and Prospect Park, and some quaint spots in Little Italy.”
DM: “There’s no set spot, but more a vision I’ve had for a solid date. We’d start in the Lower East Side and grab some dinner at a cool spot on Broome Street. Walk down to the Manhattan Bridge (most underrated bridge in NYC) and stroll across to the Brooklyn side. Then hang out at Brooklyn Bridge Park and go on the carousel. Lastly, we’d float off into the sunset.”
What’s the biggest problem with dating in NYC?
TM: “I think the unwillingness to commit for some people due to the revolving door nature of the city, and the hope that someone ‘better’ will pop into the picture.”
DM: “That people don’t seem to do it as often as they’d like.”
What’s your favorite part about life in New York City?
TM: “How you can walk through different neighborhoods and get an almost tangible feel for their unique personalities and vibes. I’m really digging the Prospect Park area right now.”
DM: “That in some ways, the city lives up to the surreal expectations that people and the media place on it…and I get to be a small part of that.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
TM: “I’ve learned love is a lot about serving someone else’s needs, even putting that person’s needs above one’s own. And when two people commit to this type of relationship, true growth occurs.”
DM: “As a wise man once wrote: ‘Do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases.’ Be patient with love.”
Name: Corey Kindberg
Age: 23
Neighborhood You Call Home: Bushwick
Job Title: Social Media Specialist, Hospitality Company
Looking For: The Clyde to My Bonnie
Twitter: @CoreyKindberg
Instagram: @CoreyKindberg
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“I have three things I require in a significant other: Be there for me when I need you, support me in the decisions I make, and include me in your life. It would be great if you had solid taste in shoes, and wore the same size as me, too.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“This is hard. There is a lot to know about me, but not everything really needs to be discussed at the beginning. For one, I really value my alone time and disconnecting from the internet; I adore someone who is totally happy just staying in on a Friday night with a jar of gelato (one for each of us) and watching Netflix — and, someone who can make me laugh.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“I enjoy someone who is passionate about multiple things, and not just a paycheck. I love someone who is spontaneous and says, “yes” to random weekend trips at the drop of a hat. Reservations really get my gears going, and just don’t take longer than 20 minutes to get ready. I really don’t enjoy dating someone who has an active social media presence. Being indecisive is a huge turn-off as well, and rather frustrating if I have to make all the decisions.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“‘Do you have floor-to-ceiling windows?'”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I’m not sure about the craziest thing, but I do enjoy doing cute things like sending donuts to your office for you birthday, surprising you with a staycation, and using PostMates to send cookies and coffee when you’re tired or just got out of a meeting.”
What would you say is the best part of your job?
“There’s always something happening behind-the-scenes. It keeps me on my toes and keeps things exciting. I also get to work on a global level, which is exciting to learn about how different cultures consume social media.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“I’m a lot less late nights and more after work dinners with close friends. I really enjoy pampering myself because I deserve it. I’m also a huge fan of booking a last minute staycation, and taking selfies in a hotel bed. Most weekends you can find me walking around the city picking up various things that I don’t need.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I think the nicest thing you can do for anyone is being there for him or her to listen when they need you to, and not offer unsolicited advice. I’m still working on not giving out the advice part.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“A savings account.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“I have a few favorite restaurants, but I try to avoid eating on a first date. A wise woman once told me that drinks are the best first date option because you’re not really committed to a time frame if you don’t like the person you’re with.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“There’s always going to be someone just around the corner who is cuter, makes more money, and makes you laugh a little bit more. Men like to chase that instead of being grateful for the person that’s standing in front of them at this very moment.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“The pace. I get bored easily, and in New York, there’s always something happening, and it’s happening quickly.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“You don’t need to define the perfect relationship.”
Name: Remington Guest
Age: 26
Neighborhood You Call Home: Bicoastal: East Village in New York City; Arts District in Los Angeles
Job Title: Creative Director and CEO, The Cheap, The Best, and The Hidden; Content Creator; Writer; Brand Consultant; Strategist; 24/7 Hustler; Next-Level Operative; Supreme Team
Looking For: Women
Twitter: @Remington
Instagram: @Remington (Yeah, I got the one name game.)
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Alexa Chung’s style with Guy Fierri appetite.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“1. I would rather sacrifice rent for a rare pair of Supreme or Nike shoes; 2. If lost, please return to NikeLab 21 Mercer or Dover Street Market; 3. My mom is better than your mom. (Case in point: Her nickname is Zeezus: Yes, like Yeezus.)”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“Not having the standard 9-to-5, making my own rules (and breaking them), and going to Equinox whenever I want (oh, and trapping out at all times).”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Searching for the best of everything doesn’t necessarily mean the most expensive or most well-known. Aside from spending way, way, way too much on mixed berry tarts and Americanos at Rose Bakery, I’m all about exploring the best that New York City, or Los Angeles, has to offer. I have the need to be ten steps ahead at all times, so being on the ground allows me to be on the pulse of all things cheap, best, and hidden before anyone else.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“I get asked this question all of the time, either from my friends or my social fam on Instagram. It’s not a place; it’s about a state of mind, a string of unplanned events, and the vibe of the moment. It is all just a Hollywood movie-level, spur of the moment kind of thing. On my blog, you can find countless dates in NYC and L.A., or just hit me up on Instagram for tips. That being said, I definitely have my go-tos. In New York, I’m all about Mace (the bubble tea cocktails are fire), Bar Goto (forget your diet, get the fries!), and Babu Ji (next-level Indian). As for L.A., Bar Stella is always a classic.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“The energy, susness, and the no parking.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“They gotta get in with the fam to get in with me.”
Name: Xavier Harding
Age: 25
Neighborhood You Call Home: Brooklyn
Job Title: Reporter/Freelancer with iDigitalTimes/Newsweek, moving soon to Popular Science
Interested In: Women
Twitter: @iamxavier
Instagram: @iamxavier
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Ambition, a great sense of humor, and her feelings about Chipotle.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I watch a lot of (too much?) television; I’m a fan of Nintendo games; if I really like you, I make sure you’ve seen Star Wars. If your guy hasn’t made sure you’ve seen episodes four, five, and six, he probably doesn’t like you. Or the movies, but probably you.
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Turn-ons: a hearty podcast queue, and a huge freaking pair of big, beautiful…eyes; turn-offs: girls who non-jokingly call themselves unattractive. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“In a very serious voice: ‘What’s your favorite dinosaur?'”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I dated a girl who bartended, and I would surprise visit her restaurant some nights as she was closing the place down. But the crazy part was the number of times I’d trek out there, only to find the lights off and the doors locked up — which definitely outweighed the number of times I succeeded. It was always worth it though, she’d light up like Times Square when I did nail it.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“Meeting new people and hearing their stories; it never gets old. Also, the intense Smash Bros. battles at work.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“See comedy shows and devour burritos. I once went rock climbing with my brother and it wasn’t the worst. One day, I’ll ideally combine all three.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“Finally, someone asks! I’ve been keeping score for a very long time.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Kale. I mean, I’d probably like it, but blegh. Just the idea.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“The Brooklyn Bridge, no question. ‘Remember that time on a date you walked hundreds of feet above New York? Across water! For free!’ Yeah, no question.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“Inter-borough relationships, I imagine. I’ve never been in one, but the tales sound rough.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“You can visit a different restaurant in New York every day for the rest of your life and never repeat one. That’s probably not true, so don’t look that up — but that’s what life here feels like.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“I’ve always liked Joseph Campbell’s take — ‘Love is a friendship set to music.’ Anything else you need to know about love has been covered by Tumblr with some bold text and a picture of Drake. Seriously, google ‘Drake Tumblr Quotes’ right now if you have an entire day to spare. He definitely has not said some of that stuff.”
Name: Dylan Hales
Age: 31
Neighborhood You Call Home: Williamsburg
Job Title: Partner, The Randolph Group
Looking For: Women
Instagram: @dylanjthales
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Someone who wants to have fun and doesn’t take life too seriously, but at the same time has a career and goals.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I am always on time; I am obsessed with having my back scratched; and I am neat, but really bad at folding clothes.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Turn-ons: people who love kids and dogs, who have a sense of humor, and have confidence; turn-offs: selfies, too much makeup, and people who are rude to their restaurant servers.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I do nice things for people every day. I can’t think what the nicest thing would be.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“I really don’t use any pick-up lines. I am not very good at approaching women randomly.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I once ran around the streets of New York wearing a dress.”
What would you say is the best part of your job?
“Being able to entertain people and create an experience for others to enjoy. Some of my closest friends have met their girlfriends/wives through me at my establishments, and there is nothing more satisfying than that.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Cook, eat, workout, cruise around with my dog, be outdoors, go in the ocean, watch sunsets and sunrises, travel, and explore.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Skydiving. I’d rather swim with sharks than jump out of a plane.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“Joseph Leonard, Hotel Delmano, Il Buco, and Pravda.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“Everyone is confused and unsettled by the amount of single people. They want to settle down, but they don’t know how.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“New York is so diverse. It changes block by block, and I love just walking the streets. Oftentimes, I’ll walk for hours and hours, just checking out what’s going on around town. From a business perspective, New York attracts the best of the best from around the world, and it’s exciting to compete at that level.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“Accept people for who they are, and be willing to compromise.”
Name: Daniel Zaltsman
Age: 27
Neighborhood You Call Home: Little Italy
Job Title: Cultivator of Community at DigitalOcean, and Founding Poet, The Haiku Guys & Gals
Looking For: Women
Twitter: @Zaltsman
Instagram: @Zaltsman
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“I’m looking for my Bonnie! She will have the traits I can never get enough of: passionate, ever-caring, always curious, and with a contagious joie de vivre!”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I make Georgian-style toasts any time I drink with company; my grandmother taught etiquette, so some of that rubbed off on me, and that’s probably why I enjoy socializing so much; the third thing involves ballroom dancing, but I’ll keep it at that.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Let’s see, I prefer erudition to social position, I admire your wits more than your decadent knits, and a smile and personal style gets you miles on my map.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I send letters to those I hold dear.”
What would you say is the best part of your job?
“Bringing change to people’s lives. I get to do this by creating custom typewritten poetry at parties, making inspiring social media content, or just supporting and connecting colleagues and friends.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Travel outside the country, spend time with family, and go to the banya with friends.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“Recently, I found an abandoned iPhone in a cab late one night in Greenpoint. It was locked and running out of battery, so I took it home to charge it. In the morning, a stream of birthday texts came in, making the story very clear. I went to AT&T and returned it with a note. Months later, [the girl who owned the phone] texted me saying, “I finally took off my phone case and discovered your note — thank you so much!” We went out for tacos to laugh the whole thing off.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“To me, you are even more interesting than you think I think you are. Let’s tango!’ (I’m not very good at this.)“
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Climbing up a skyscraper with a GoPro is not on my bucket list.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“For a casual scene: Café Select, BREAD, and, one of my new personal favorites, Pearl & Ash. For a walk-and-talk, The Met and its rooftop are nice, as are Dumbo or Bushwick.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“The lack of focus and humor.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“The 3 T’s, of course: trash, tourists, and Times Square.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“Love: There’s enough of it for all, and those who seek it will find it. Additionally, as with anything, there must be a healthy balance.”
Name: Jaime Felber
Age: 29
Neighborhood You Call Home: East Village
Job Title: Bar Owner/Restaurateur, Boulton & Watt and Drexler’s
Looking For: Right Twix
Instagram: @JFelber 1
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Someone who is passionate, hard-working, and a sandwich connoisseur.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“I’m kind of a workaholic, even though I like to pretend otherwise. I have a large, loud family. I love them immensely, and they are incredibly welcoming — and any newcomers need to be able to hold their own. And, I have a very bad habit of saying ‘yes’ to just about anything when it comes to friends.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Biggest turn-ons: a willingness to try new things, a desire to travel, and the ability to laugh at yourself. A need to self-promote is definitely a big turn-off.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“I’ve heard so many insane ones working in bars and restaurants, and they always make me cringe. I have to stick with something cliché like, ‘Can I buy you a drink?'”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“Does a Saturday at Ikea count?”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“If I do my job well, it can make people genuinely happy, and that happiness can hopefully foster creativity. Or babies. I like to think my job encourages babies.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“I’m in a fortunate position to love what I do, and that what I do is something I can carry on outside of work. So really, I love exploring new restaurants, new bars, and discovering parts of the city I’ve never been to. My friends tease me for my ‘willingness to travel distances for creative food.'”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I’m a big fan of constant little gestures. I love creating surprises for my significant other. Life and circumstances caused a girlfriend and I to split, and I found myself on the other side of the world on her birthday. Even though we had broken up, it wasn’t because we didn’t care about each other. I knew her friends were taking her out, so I had flowers delivered to the restaurant where they were having dinner.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Probably not. What’s life without a little weirdness?”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“I don’t have any in particular — dinner and drinks is always an easy option. I think it’s person-specific. When I left London, I looked back and realized how much there was going on that I never took advantage of, so I try to keep that in mind in New York. I really wanted to go to ‘Shakespeare in the Parking Lot’ this year, but I think time got away from me.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“It’s fast. Really fast. I found it unnerving when I started realizing the girl I was going on a date with on Monday might have two more dates lined up with different people that week. It began to feel like a competition I didn’t want to be a part of.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“It’s New York City! There are endless opportunities to do just about anything you can imagine. I definitely over-romanticize it sometimes, but I’m okay with that. It’s a pretty iconic place to call home, even for a short time.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“Be honest; be a man. An ability to communicate is invaluable.”
Name: Nate Adler
Age: 25
Neighborhood You Call Home: Fort Greene
Job Title: Co-Owner/General Manager, Huertas Restaurant
Looking For: Women
Twitter: @natejackadler
Instagram: @njadler
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“Someone with a cute creative edge, who would be down to cook, shake cocktails, and dance with me around my apartment —or crack jokes while I do so.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“My family is silly and full of quirks; my restaurant is my extended family, and I spend quite a lot of my life there; and I like my eggs sunny-side up.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Biggest turn-ons: short hair, a fun sense of style, and helping make some of the plans; biggest turn-offs: the use of the word ‘like,’ an obsession with One Direction, and doing too many things on the couch.'”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“Have you ever been out with one of Refinery29’s most eligible bachelors?”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I once took a French class to try and learn my girlfriend’s native language, although I never got anywhere close except for rolling my r’s.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“The people I work with. With them around, there is never a boring moment.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Staying active — riding my bike, running, and playing soccer; exploring the eating and drinking culture in and out of New York City; and throwing a good dinner party.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“This past winter I was down in the Florida Keys for a friend’s wedding, and I decided I would rent a car and surprise my grandmother, four hours away, round-trip, for lunch. I am quite grateful, as it ended up being the last sit down lunch we had together.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Having an Alexander Hamilton/Aaron Burr-style duel. I would rather risk my life in so many other ways.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“For a late-night after-work drink (which happens quite a lot, since the restaurant keeps me late): Bar Sardine in the West Village — it has amazing cocktails and a great feel. For a morning coffee and small bite: El Rey on the Lower East Side — it’s always a great way to start the day. For a day out on the town: Check out the exhibits at MoMA PS1, eat lunch at M. Wells Dinette at the museum, and walk over to Williamsburg for a sunset drink on the roof of the Wythe Hotel.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“There is so much temptation, and everyone is on their hustle; being busy with work is such an easy way out. Even after a great date, people think there may be someone better out there, and it can take weeks to get another date set up with someone you have great feelings about.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“Having been born in Manhattan, 26 years later, there is never a dull moment. It is still the city paved with gold and endless opportunities to make it. Everyone is hustling, and that keeps life interesting.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“It is all about compromise. Be overgenerous, and don’t let it get away because you are too busy to tend to it.”
Name: Vincent Marino
Age: 34
Neighborhood You Call Home: Williamsburg
Job Title: Owner, Loosie Rouge and Loosie’s Kitchen
Looking For: A woman to love
Instagram: @vinyvidivici
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“I do not look for anything particularly — I like to be surprised and surprise myself!
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“1. I have a French accent; 2. I have a very strong French accent; 3. I will never have a clear English accent.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“The biggest turn-on for me is the sharpness and the humor of a woman — I do not find anything more sexy than that; it makes me melt! Rather, I hate vulgarity in a woman.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“I have never had a pick-up line; I am a very spontaneous person with a lot of imagination (sometimes too much).”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“I changed my life from A to Z — I traveled, lived somewhere new, and learned a new language. I have done that many times, and am happy to do it again!”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“I love meeting new people every day around a glass of wine or a nice dish — it’s like opening a new book; a new story with new characters!”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“I love to travel and escape from the craziness of the city — like spending a few days upstate next to a fireplace, or going surfing on an exotic island when it’s freezing here.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I try to live my life doing something nice for someone each and every day. It’s an addition of little things here and there that I do naturally, without thinking of my karma.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Going alone somewhere with no human beings around and spending a year there.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“During the summer, my rooftop with a nice bottle of wine. In the winter, Epistrophy, this cute little Italian bar on Mott Street.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“I do not know if it’s a problem or not, but I believe that this is the only city in the world where it’s permitted to date more than one person at a time. I am really happy with that, don’t get me wrong, but I am still struggling with the word ‘date.’ What does it mean?”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“Always feeling young. Even at 40, you are still young — 50 can be the same. I will leave New York before I’m 60.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“I was a very undisciplined student, who never really paid attention and learned his lessons, even though I really loved school — I guess it’s the same with love.”
Name: Jake Miller
Age: 23
Neighborhood Call Home: Williamsburg
Job Title: Product Associate, Tasting Table
Looking For: Women
Twitter: @jgmiller
Instagram: @jgmiller
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“You have to know what you are passionate about in life, laugh often, always be ready for an adventure, intelligent, and ready to call me on my shit.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“1. My life has always revolved around food, from seven years in kitchens to cofounding Flavour, and the restaurant discovery app; 2. I see every day as an opportunity to make someone feel special; 3. Half of my heritage is Amish.”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“Turn-ons: humility, open-mindedness, confidence, and women who read novellas on subways with hats; turn-offs: picky eaters — it says a lot about a person!”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“Hey, aren’t you that girl from that thing the other day?”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“Yeah, I’ll count this: I managed to get the entire production crew of The Radiolab podcast to help with a personalized birthday gift.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“Helping thousands of people discover underrated restaurants and the best places to eat across the United States.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“Watching low-budget sci-fi/horror movies — truly terrible ones; taking the subway to explore new parts of New York (What’s good Livonia Avenue?); and teaching friends how to cook something they’ve always wanted to learn how to make.”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“Performed underwater CPR on a friend’s dolphin after it fainted during labor.”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“Standing up to wipe.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“Places where you can appreciate the beauty around you and actually have a conversation. Whether it’s at an incredible restaurant or just taking a walk through a park to people watch.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“Dating is an afterthought — people are too busy focusing on everything else going on in their lives — careers, friends, and going out. Obviously, lots of good things come from that, but dating is another way to grow and learn about yourself and others, and many people forget that.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“There’s no privacy at a small party. But New York City is like a huge party. You can do whatever you want; you can always be with friends, be a complete recluse, meet new people, laugh with strangers, and be a fool, all in the same place.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“Sometimes, your closest friends actually do know what’s best for you, regardless of whether or not you want to believe them at first.”
Name: Bryan Goldberg
Age: 32
Job Title: Founder and CEO, Bustle
Neighborhood You Call Home: Chelsea
Twitter: @Bgoldberg
Instagram: @Sirbrygo
What are you looking for in a significant other?
“I like to joke around a lot — for me, the best way to demonstrate seriousness about important things is to approach everything else with a degree of levity. So, I tend to date women who can also put serious moments in their proper context, and laugh about everything else.”
Name three things a potential significant other should know about you.
“First, it takes a long time for me to fall in love; second, I prefer creative romantic gestures as opposed to the cliché norm; third, I am not a good dancer on 95% of nights. But, if you catch me on that 20th night…wow!”
What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?
“I’m happy to talk about the generic topics on dates — jobs and cities we’ve lived in — up to a point. But I’m interested in hanging out with a woman who isn’t afraid to go off the usual script and talk about anything, and everything.
“Time is really valuable and important to me, so when somebody cancels a date or engagement at the very last minute, that’s a turn-off.”
Do you have a go-to pick-up line?
“There’s no such thing as a good pick-up line. Men shouldn’t use them. Just ask someone a question you’re curious to know the answer to, even if that question is whether you should order the mozzarella sticks or the buffalo wings.”
What is the craziest thing you’ve done for a significant other?
“One time in college, my girlfriend and I were driving in the middle of nowhere and we got a flat tire. She gave me the look of ‘it won’t be me fixing this.’ There were no smartphones then, so I had to wing it. But, I was able to change the tire, and it didn’t fly off when we started driving again. I am definitely not the handiest guy, so this felt like a significant achievement. To this day, none of my friends believe I actually did it. But it totally happened.”
What would you say is the best part about your job?
“Without a doubt, it’s the fact that I get to work with the most talented, smart, and hard-working team in media.”
What are your favorite things to do outside of work?
“A few years ago, I signed up for a dating website that made me select from a short list of interests. One of the interests was ‘antiquing.’ After using Google to confirm that “antiquing” was actually a thing, I picked it! I’m a huge history fanatic, and I’m also a big fan of interior design, so going to antique stores or surfing for finds on 1stDibs is a hobby of mine. Women who date me should expect to one day hear the line, ‘I pick the furniture in this relationship!'”
What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
“I can’t reveal my secrets, I’m not in it for the credit!”
Is there anything you wouldn’t try once?
“There are a million things I wouldn’t try once, and that’s not because I’m picky. It’s because I know what I like, and I know what I don’t like. And, if you have ever dated someone who doesn’t know what they like, you will agree that it’s awful.”
What are your go-to NYC date spots?
“I have a few go-to spots for dates. The criteria is always similar: I prefer places that tend to be about two-thirds full — packed bars are the worst for dates — and places that serve tapas over full dinner, because that’s a great, casual, way to get to know someone. Grape & Vine is a favorite, and Toro is also a great spot.”
What have you found to be the biggest problem with dating in New York City?
“I think the biggest problem in New York City is just finding the time. Everyone here is busy and working hard, so dating isn’t always the top priority.”
What is your favorite part about living here?
“Convenience. To me, the key to living longer is to eliminate any needless waste of time from your life. Sitting around a pharmacy for an hour until they can fill your order? Driving to work? If you can save two hours per day by taking advantage of what New York does best, then that is making your waking life almost 15% longer.”
What’s one lesson you’ve learned about love so far?
“Just like the classic song says, ‘You can’t hurry love.'”
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